How to respond when he plans a first date without checking your schedule

Some guys do this because they're used to being accommodated. Some do it because they think decisiveness is attractive. Some do it because they're anxious and picked a time before they could overthink it. The worst interpretation is that he doesn't care about your schedule. But on a first message, it's more likely he's just not running through the checklist of normal courtesy.

The signal that matters is what happens after you push back. Does he get defensive? Does he apologize and ask what works? Does he disappear? That tells you way more than the initial assumption did. Right now you're just seeing inconsiderate texting, not his actual character.

Your reply needs to gently correct the approach while leaving the date on the table. Don't accept the time he picked, but do offer one instead. This does two things. First, it shows him you have a schedule that matters and he needs to work around it. Second, it gives him an easy way to recover. He doesn't have to feel bad or defensive. He just has to adjust.

Keep it light and forward-moving. No lectures about how he should have asked first. Just act like someone with a full life who can accommodate him if the timing works, but not if it doesn't.

Reply while the message is still fresh, ideally within a few hours. Don't delay because you're annoyed. That just makes the thread go cold.

Once you send your counter-offer with your own available times, give him at least 24 hours to respond. If he's interested, he'll confirm or suggest an alternative pretty quickly. If he goes silent, that tells you he was more invested in his own plan than in actually meeting you. If he gets defensive or tries to guilt you into his original time, that's a solid reason to walk away.