Respond when he gets short about meeting up over text

When someone goes from normal banter to one-word replies the moment you talk about seeing each other, something changed. It's not random rudeness. He could be swamped and frustrated by the planning friction. He could be second-guessing the date. He could think you're not that interested based on something you said. Or he could just be bad at logistics and annoyed at texting. The shortness itself doesn't tell you which one. But the pattern does: if he was warm earlier and goes cold at "when can we meet," he's reacting to the meeting-up part specifically, not to you as a person.

A good reply does two things. First, it strips out the friction. Instead of "when works for you," you propose an actual time and place. Specific. Easy to say yes to. Second, it stays warm and direct. No hedging. No "haha only if you want to" language that signals you're already backing out. You're saying I want to see you and here's how. If he gets short when faced with a real offer, that's different data than him being short during vague back-and-forth. His next move tells you whether this is a logistics problem or an interest problem.

Send your reply with a specific day and time. Give him two to three hours to respond if it's daytime, or until the next morning if it's late. Don't send a follow-up text if he doesn't answer right away. That's the trap. Instead, wait 24 to 48 hours. If he's interested but busy, he'll come back with a counter-offer or a yes. If he stays short or ghosts, you have your answer. At that point, stop. One non-answer is information. A second text after silence is you chasing. Don't do it.