He locks in a date then vanishes. Here's what to do

When someone confirms plans and then goes quiet, they're not being spontaneous or forgetful. They're managing you. Specifically, they want the safety of having plans locked in without the effort of actually talking to you before the date. Some guys do this because they're juggling other options. Some do it because they get anxious about consistent texting. The reason matters less than what it means: he's comfortable having you available but not interested in building momentum toward seeing you.

Notice the pattern. He engaged just enough to make the plan real. Now he's minimizing. That's the read you need to act on.

The move here is to confirm the date once, close to it, without asking questions or inviting him to respond. Something factual. Time, place, maybe a one-line reason you're looking forward to it. Then you stop. You don't follow up. You don't text him about other stuff. You don't check if he saw it.

This does two things at once. It keeps you off his radar so he doesn't feel pursued. And it makes it harder to flake because you've established that you're someone who shows up, and he now knows exactly where and when. If he bails after that, it's not vague. It's a choice.

Don't send your confirmation message right now while you're annoyed. Wait until the day before or morning of. His silence might even continue right up until then. That's fine. When you send your message, keep it short enough that it doesn't require a response. Then don't text him again before the date, even if he doesn't reply to your confirmation.

If he texts you the night before or day of, respond normally but briefly. Don't overshare or ask him questions. If he doesn't text, you still show up on time. You're not waiting for his energy. You're already there.