When a guy keeps postponing dates, how long to wait before moving on

When someone says 'next week' twice or more without ever landing on a specific day, they're not actually planning to see you. A person who wants to date you works around their schedule to make it happen. They name a day. They confirm it.

What repeated postponement tells you is that you're filling time in their week, not taking up real space in it. They're comfortable texting you and keeping your interest alive because it costs them nothing. But they're not uncomfortable enough about losing you to actually commit. That's the data point. Everything else is just them being polite about it.

Don't ask him to pick a day if he's already said 'next week' vaguely once. Instead, name a specific date and time yourself, and ask if he can make it. This does two things: it removes his excuse of being too disorganized to plan, and it gives him one clear yes-or-no question.

If he says yes and locks it in, great. If he says 'can't that day but next week for sure,' you now have your answer. You're not waiting anymore. You move on. The point of this message is to stop you from entering another cycle of vague promises.

Send your message with a specific date in it. Give him until the end of that calendar day to respond with a yes or a clear alternative. Don't wait for the weekend or for him to 'figure out his schedule.' If he doesn't reply or replies with another vague 'next week,' that's your answer.

After that, stop texting him about dates. You can respond if he reaches out about other stuff, but you're not asking about plans again. If he wants to reschedule after ghosting on dates, you can decide then whether he's worth another shot. For now, you're done holding space for someone who won't hold space for you.