Does she text you all day or only when you text first?

A single day tells you almost nothing, because people's schedules swing wildly. Look at the shape over about a week. If she replies within a few hours most days, even with short messages, she is paying attention. If replies take a day or more and she never comes back to a thread on her own, that is the signal to take seriously. Notice whether she ever initiates. A message that opens with something about her own life, like a photo of where she is or a question about your weekend, counts for much more than a reply that just answers you.

Also watch what she does with openings you give her. If you mention something she could easily riff on and she runs with it, she is engaged. If she answers and leaves it dead, she is being polite and not much else. The pattern you are looking for is not how often she texts, but whether she ever puts effort into the conversation without being prompted, and whether she responds to your effort with more than a single word.

Once you have a read on her pattern, your task is to keep the thread alive on your own terms. Send messages that leave a real question or a small decision for her to make, like which of two things she'd rather do this weekend or whether she has seen a particular show. Reference something specific she told you earlier so she can see you were listening. Keep your messages short enough that replying is easy. These moves give her something to pick up without asking her to carry the whole conversation.

The aim is to make it easy for her to move toward you. If she keeps answering in one line no matter what you send, stop adding to the pile. A thread that only you keep going is not a relationship being built. Your next message should carry a clear invitation, not another round of small talk.

Text volume is a poor measure of where things stand, and the fastest way out of the guessing is to ask her to do something. Once you have had a few exchanges where the conversation was warm, suggest a specific plan with a day and a rough time, like a coffee on Thursday after work or a walk on Saturday morning. A concrete ask is hard to answer with a vague reply, so her response will tell you more than another week of texts would.

If she says yes and then cancels or goes quiet, you have learned something useful, and you can decide whether to try once more. If she engages with the plan, you have moved past the texting question entirely. Do not let a thread drag on for weeks without a plan on the table. Long stretches of low-effort texting usually mean the connection is stuck, and a real meeting is what breaks that open.