Does she text you first or only reply when you message her?

A single reply that takes a day tells you almost nothing. What matters is whether her replies carry a question, a detail from your message, or a bit of her own life. If she answers every message with a closed line and never asks you anything back, that is a clearer signal than how often she starts a thread. Some people simply wait to be messaged because they don't want to seem eager, and some are more interested than their texting style suggests. Look for whether she keeps a thread going once it starts, since that often says more than who opens it.

Also check her context. If she's in a busy stretch, works long shifts, or texts from a phone she barely looks at, the pattern may be about logistics rather than interest. Ask yourself whether the thread feels like it's moving toward something or just sitting there.

If she's not starting things, the most useful thing your message can do is leave a door open she can walk through without effort. A question with a real answer she has to think about works better than a generic check-in. Refer to something specific she told you, or a plan that needs her input, like where to eat or what she'd want to do on the weekend. Avoid messages that end the thread, such as statements with no question or jokes that need no reply. The goal is that answering takes her thirty seconds and gives her a reason to ask you something back.

Do not stack two or three questions in one text. That turns a conversation into an interview and makes it easy for her to answer one and leave the rest.

Decide in advance how long a gap you will accept before you adjust. For most people texting in the early stages, one to two days of silence after a question is normal, and a week without her starting anything is only a problem if the replies you do get are thin. If you have sent two messages in a row with no answer, stop there. Sending a third to check whether she's alive usually reads as pressure. If she replies warmly after a gap, let that count as a real signal and keep the energy steady rather than matching her delay.

If the pattern holds for two or three weeks, with her replying briefly, never asking anything, and never initiating, you have your answer. Either suggest meeting in person, which often clears up the texting question quickly, or let the thread fade. Do not spend a month trying to get her to text first.