Does he want to date me or just text? Read the signs

If you're asking this question, it's probably because you've been talking for a while with no concrete plans. That's the diagnosis right there. Guys who want to date you don't text for a month before suggesting coffee. They do it within the first week or two, usually while the momentum is still there. When a guy keeps texting but never pivots to "let's meet," he's either not interested in you specifically, keeping you as an option while he pursues someone else, or just likes the attention without wanting the commitment of an actual date. The texting itself can feel great. It can feel like connection. But connection without the intention to meet is just pen paling. Read the timeline, not the tone of his messages.

You have two moves here. First option: you suggest meeting up in a casual way and see if he actually commits to a time and place. No wishy washy stuff. Something specific. This forces his hand. If he wanted to date you, he'll confirm. If he makes excuses, ghosts, or keeps texting around the plan without locking it in, you have your answer. Second option: you acknowledge the texting is nice but make it clear you're looking to actually date someone, not text indefinitely. This sounds like a conversation, not a game, which is exactly the point. Either way, you're not asking him to declare his feelings. You're creating a situation where his actions answer the question for you. No more guessing.

Don't overthink the timing. Send your message while the conversation is still warm but before he texts you again. Once you've suggested a date or put it on him to show up, the clock starts. Give him two or three days to respond with an actual plan. If he's texting you regularly but suddenly goes silent when you mention meeting, that's intentional. If he says yes but keeps postponing or vagueing out the details, he's not serious. After a week of stalling with no confirmed date on the calendar, stop engaging at that level. You can stay friendly, but you already know the answer. If he comes back later with a real plan, you can decide then if you're still interested. For now, you're done testing his intentions.