Should you wait 3 days before texting in the talking stage

When someone is interested at the start, they're thinking about you. A 3-day delay sends the opposite signal. She assumes you're either not interested, already talking to someone else, or just keeping her as an option.

Texting in the talking stage isn't like a phone call where showing restraint looked cool. It's her primary way to know you exist outside the app. If you vanish for days, she fills that void by texting someone else. By the time you reply, you're not a conversation anymore. You're a backup plan.

A good reply does two things. First, it answers what she actually asked or responds to what she said. Don't sidestep her message. Second, it adds something new. A question, a detail about yourself, a reason to keep talking. This keeps the ball in motion.

You're not trying to impress her with wit or strategy. You're trying to stay present and show her it's easy to talk to you. Reply within hours, not days. Keep your messages short enough that she can answer quickly. This builds a rhythm.

The talking stage ends when one of you suggests actually meeting. Until then, you're still auditioning. Don't text for weeks without pushing toward a date. Two to three days of back and forth is usually enough to know if you want to meet.

If she's interested, suggest coffee or a drink. If she keeps saying she's busy but keeps texting you, she's not interested in meeting. At that point, either stop texting or accept you're pen pals. Don't wait three days between messages hoping she'll eventually want to hang out. That's just wasting both your time.