What to say on Hinge when her prompt is about what she's been meaning to try
How to reply to 'something I've been meaning to try' prompts on Hinge. Real openers that spark conversation instead of dead ends.
When someone fills in a prompt about what they've been meaning to try, she's handed you a small window into her headspace. She's thinking about change, action, maybe some risk. The prompt itself isn't the point. What matters is whether you treat it as a conversation starter or just a fact to acknowledge.
A good opener here does two things at once. It takes her 'meaning to try' seriously enough to ask a real question about it, but it doesn't pretend like her half-formed plan is already locked in stone. You're showing you listened while also leaving room for her to be honest about why she hasn't done it yet.
Most guys either go too casual ('lol that sounds fun') or too serious ('you should totally do that'). Neither one moves the conversation forward. You need to land somewhere between curious and collaborative, which means asking something that requires a real answer.
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Try for freeShe's naming something she wants but hasn't committed to
When someone says 'meaning to try' instead of 'want to try' or 'plan to try', she's sitting in a specific place. There's interest. There's also friction. Maybe it's time, money, logistics, or just that it hasn't bubbled to the top of her priority list. The prompt works because it's low stakes. She doesn't have to defend the idea or pretend she's already doing it.
What she's really signaling is that she thinks about the life she wants when she has a minute to sit with it. That matters. Treat it like you noticed she's someone who names what she wants, not someone who needs to be encouraged or pushed.
Ask what's actually stopping her, not why she hasn't done it
The gap between meaning and doing is where the real conversation lives. Your opener should acknowledge that gap exists without making her feel bad about it. The move is to ask a question that lets her choose whether to tell you it's a 'someday' thing or whether she's actually closer to doing it than she sounds.
Ask her what's in the way, or what would have to shift for her to actually book it or sign up. Ask if she's tried before or if this is totally new territory. Ask if she's got a friend who should do it with her. Any of these questions treats her plan as real enough to want specifics, which is different from just cheering her on.
Send it within a few hours, follow up after three days if nothing
Timing doesn't matter as much here as it does on other prompts. She wrote something reflective and open ended, so your message can land anytime and still hit right. Send it when you've read her profile, same as any other opener.
If she doesn't reply after three days, move on. A message that asks her to engage with her own decision should get a response if she's interested. If there's no reply, she either didn't connect with you or she's not checking the app. Either way, a follow-up doesn't change the outcome.
Why these openers fail
“That sounds awesome! I've always wanted to try pottery too. We should do it together lol”
You're jumping straight to 'we should do this together' before she's even replied once, which reads as trying too hard and assumes mutual interest without earning it.
“Pottery is cool but why haven't you actually done it yet?”
It makes you sound like you're calling her out for not following through instead of actually curious about what's in the way.
“Pottery huh? I respect that you're trying new things”
You're patronizing her with approval instead of asking her anything, which kills the chance for her to actually respond with substance.
Common mistakes
- Saying 'you should do it' signals you think she needs permission and frames the whole thing as advice-giving instead of curiosity
- Asking 'why haven't you done it yet' makes you sound judgmental about her inaction instead of interested in her reasoning
- Commenting only on the activity itself instead of what it reveals about what she wants to change or explore
- Treating it as a fact to agree with rather than an opening to ask something that requires her to think and reply with substance
Questions people ask
- Should I mention if I've done the activity she named?
- Only if it leads to a real question. If you say 'I took pottery last year', that's just agreement. Better move: ask her what she thinks it'll be like, or whether she has a specific reason it appeals to her now. Your own experience matters only if it helps you ask her something better.
- What if she says she's been 'meaning to try' something really basic?
- Don't condescend. Ask what makes now different from last month, or what's the blocker. Sometimes people put 'try cooking at home' or 'read more' in their prompts because life's gotten in the way, not because it's not real to them. Treat it the same way.
- Is it better to be encouraging or challenge her to actually do it?
- Neither. You're a stranger who just read her profile. Your job is to ask a question that invites her to tell you more about why it matters to her, not to become her accountability buddy or cheerleader. Stay curious, not invested.
- Should I offer to do the activity with her in my first message?
- No. You haven't even had a conversation yet. Ask her about the idea first. If there's actual chemistry and she seems game, that's a later conversation. In your opener, just ask her something that requires a real answer.
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