Snapchat opener for a match who is a ski instructor and loves cooking Italian food

The ski instructor part is what a lot of people will mention, so it is the most crowded topic you can pick. Her cooking line is less common, and it tells you what she likes to do when she is not working. Someone who writes about Sunday gravy is usually proud of a particular recipe or a family tradition, and that is where a real conversation starts.

Read the prompts for tone too. If she wrote something dry or teasing, match that. If she wrote something warm and detailed, you can be a little more open. Her profile is telling you how she likes to talk, and the first message should sound like it was written by someone who looked closely enough to notice that.

One kind of message asks about the food itself: whose recipe the gravy is, whether it simmers all day, what goes in it that other people leave out. Its job is to get her describing something she clearly likes. You can tell a draft is this kind because it names a dish or a detail from her profile and ends with a question about how she makes it. It should leave out any claim about your own cooking unless you are ready to back it up.

A second kind is light and a little funny, pointing at the contrast between her job and her food, like someone who spends the day keeping people upright and the evening making something heavy and slow. Its job is to make her smile and reply with a line of her own. It works when the joke is about her profile, not a generic one. It should leave out anything that makes her defend herself or explain her life.

A third kind is a question about the mountain, asking what the hardest lesson to teach is or what the worst fall she has seen looked like. It works if you actually want to know the answer, and it gives her something she enjoys telling. It fails when it turns into a list of questions about her job.

Send your first message in the late morning or early afternoon on a weekday, or on a weekend morning when people are up and not yet busy. Late at night a Snap can look like a hook-up request, and it tends to get a short reply or none. If she is a ski instructor, she may be on a mountain during the day, so a message that lands at lunch or after her last lesson gives her an easy moment to answer.

If she does not reply within a day, do not send a second message right away. Wait two or three days, then send one short follow-up that is not an apology or a reminder. Something that adds a small new detail, like a photo of a dish you made or a question about a resort she mentioned, gives her a reason to answer without making her feel chased. If that also goes unanswered, stop. Leave it there and move on.