Opening Messages for True Crime Podcast Obsessed Matches
Craft an opening that shows you get her passion for true crime, avoid generic podcast small talk, and actually stand out in her inbox.
A girl who lists true crime podcasts in her profile or mentions them early has found a community and identity there. She's not looking for surface-level comments about how 'that podcast is wild.' She wants someone who either shares the obsession or respects it enough to engage with real knowledge.
Good openers do two things. They prove you actually listen to or know true crime media, and they ask a question that invites her to talk about why she cares, not just which show she watches. Pick a specific detail from her profile or reference a show with enough specificity that it's clear you didn't just Google 'popular true crime podcasts.'
She's filtering for people who can hold a conversation beyond pleasantries. This is your shot to show you can.
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Intelligence and pattern-recognition in true crime choices
True crime obsession usually means she's smart, likes puzzles, and spends real time thinking about human behavior and justice systems. She's not casual about this. The specific shows she picks matter. Casefile and Murder Monday listeners tend toward detailed, respectful storytelling. True Crime Junkie or Crime Junkie fans like narrative-driven storytelling with personality. Someone listing podcasts in her bio at all is saying this is part of how she identifies, not just something she listens to in the car.
This also means she's heard every obvious true crime reference and joke. Generic comments about serial killers or 'haha that's so twisted' will feel tired before you hit send.
Open with a specific case she's heard
Instead of naming the podcast, open by referencing something specific that podcast covered. A particular case, an unsolved mystery angle, or a detail that matters to how she thinks about the genre. This tells her you didn't just scan her profile for keywords. You did the work of understanding what she actually cares about.
Then ask what made that case stick with her, or why that podcast specifically keeps her coming back. This moves the conversation away from 'what do you like' and into 'what do you think.' She gets to tell you something real, not just list preferences.
Message her during evening listening hours
True crime podcast listeners often listen during downtime, commutes, or evening wind-down. Sending your message when she's likely to see it during that window, not at 1am, means she can respond while the interest is live. If she doesn't reply within three to four days, send one follow-up message that either adds a new specific detail about the case or show you mentioned, or asks a different angle on the same topic. Don't wait longer than a week total. If nothing lands by then, move on. Silence after a solid opener usually means she's not interested, not that you need a better line.
Why these openers fail
“omg i love true crime too! whats your favorite podcast??”
Generic, lazy, and she's answered this question countless times before. Gives her nothing to work with.
“murder monday is insane lol. do you listen to any other podcasts?”
Acknowledges her interest but pivots immediately to small talk instead of going deeper into why that show matters to her.
“I bet you're into some dark stuff haha. ever listened to [totally made up podcast name]?”
Tries to be clever or edgy while appearing not to know what she actually listens to. Sounds like you made it up or didn't pay attention.
Common mistakes
- Saying 'I love true crime too' without naming a single show or case you actually know
- Asking 'what's your favorite podcast' like she hasn't answered that a hundred times already
- Making a serial killer joke instead of engaging with her actual interest
- Confusing true crime with paranormal or conspiracy content she never mentioned
- Writing a paragraph about a podcast you heard one episode of
Questions people ask
- Should I mention a true crime case if I'm not super into the genre?
- Only if you actually know what you're talking about. If you've listened to or read about a specific case, reference it. If you're bluffing, ask her questions instead. Asking 'what draws you to unsolved cases' or 'why Casefile specifically' lets her talk while you listen and learn.
- Is it better to admit I don't listen to her podcast, or pretend I do?
- Be honest. Say something like 'I haven't listened to [show] yet, but I've read about [specific case] and it got stuck in my head. What makes that show different?' Honesty plus specificity beats false familiarity every time.
- Can I make a joke about serial killers or murder as my opener?
- Avoid it. She's heard every joke already. If humor comes up naturally in the conversation after she's responded, fine. But opening with dark humor signals you're not taking her interest seriously.
- What if she doesn't respond to my specific reference?
- Send one follow-up within four days with a different angle. If that lands nowhere, leave it. Two good openers without response means she's not interested in you, not that your opener was bad.
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