Instagram DM opener for a girl who posts pottery wheel videos
How to open an Instagram DM to a girl who shares pottery wheel throwing videos, without sounding like you copy-pasted a compliment.
She's posting her throwing videos on purpose. Someone who shares process footage wants people to watch the work and comment on what they actually saw, so the most useful thing you can do is react to a specific moment in a specific video. A line like "love your content" tells her nothing about whether you watched.
Pottery is also a hobby where people have opinions. Centering, wall thickness, glaze choice, whether she trims at leather hard or bone dry. If you ask one real question that shows you paid attention, she gets to talk about something she knows well, which is the whole point of posting. That's what makes a reply land.
What a good opener achieves is simple: it proves you watched, it asks something she can answer in a sentence or two, and it doesn't ask for anything bigger than a reply. Everything after that is the conversation she decides to have.
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Read the reel before you read her face
A throwing video is a record of decisions. She centers, opens, pulls, and sometimes the wall collapses or she rescues it with a sponge. Her caption often tells you what she thought mattered, like the disaster she saved in the last ten seconds. Pick one of those moments and treat it as the subject of your message. The comments under her post are a useful check here: if forty people wrote "so satisfying", that's the easy reaction and it's probably the one she's already heard. Look for the detail the crowd skipped.
This also tells you how she likes to be talked to. If her captions are dry and technical, a technical question fits. If she jokes about failing, a light joke about the wobble works better than a serious question. You're reading her tone from the content she chose to publish, which is more honest than guessing from a profile photo.
Ask about the moment, not the finished pot
Finished pieces are where people stop looking closely. The interesting questions sit in the middle of the process: how she knew the wall was ready to pull, why she stopped at that height, what she did when the rim started to fold. Pick one of those and ask about it directly. Keep it short enough that she can answer from her phone in under a minute. A question with an obvious practical answer, like how thick she leaves the base, gives her something to say without making her write an essay.
Avoid asking her to teach you pottery or to suggest a class for you. Those ask her to take on a role she didn't sign up for in a DM. Curiosity about her work keeps the focus on the thing she's proud of.
Wait a week before deciding it's dead
Creators get a lot of DMs, and a reply can take days because she was busy or the message went into a requests folder she rarely checks. Send one message and leave it. If a week passes with no answer, a short follow-up that references a newer video of hers is fine, something like noticing a new glaze test she posted. That gives her a fresh reason to reply and shows you're still watching her work, not chasing the conversation.
If you've sent two messages and there's still nothing, stop. Don't send a third to check whether she saw the first two, and don't reply to her story with a question meant to restart the thread. Silence after two real attempts is an answer. Move on and leave her posts as something you actually enjoy watching.
Why these openers fail
“Hey, your pottery is amazing!! Where do you sell your work?”
It compliments the output without showing you watched anything, and the sales question makes her a vendor before she's a person you're talking to.
“Saw your reel, I'm into art too. What do you do?”
It names no detail from the video, so she can't tell which post you saw, and the question is broad enough that it's easy to ignore.
“Hi, I've been trying to throw on the wheel for months and mine always collapses. Would you ever give me a lesson?”
It turns a casual DM into a request for free instruction from a stranger, and it's mostly about your problem rather than her video.
Common mistakes
- Commenting on how pretty the pots are without naming a single thing in the video
- Asking a question you could have answered by reading her bio or the caption
- Leading with a compliment about her looks, which tells her the pottery is secondary
- Sending a long paragraph about your own pottery history or a class you took once
- Sending the same message to every creator who posts clay videos and getting nothing back
Questions people ask
- Is it weird to DM a girl about her pottery videos if we don't know each other?
- No, it's one of the more normal reasons to message someone you don't know, because she's publishing the work for people to respond to. Keep the message tied to a specific video and ask one thing she can answer easily. If it's clearly about her work and not her appearance, most people read it as friendly interest. A single short message is enough at this stage.
- What question should I ask about a pottery video?
- Ask about a decision she made during the throw, such as when she decided the wall was thick enough to pull or why she trimmed at that stage. These questions are easy to answer and show you watched the whole clip. Avoid questions that need a long reply or ask her to recommend a class or teach you the basics.
- How long should I wait before sending a second message?
- Give it about a week, since creators often get many DMs and some sit in requests. If you follow up, reference a newer video or a recent glaze test so she has a fresh reason to answer. Don't send a message that only asks whether she saw the first one.
- What if she replies once and then goes quiet?
- Reply to what she said with one short, relevant follow-up if you have one. If she answers with a few words, don't push for more questions in the same thread. Let the conversation end naturally, and you can still react to her future posts without making it a bigger thing.
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