How to reply when she mentions a book that changed her mind

The 'book that changed my mind' prompt filters for people willing to admit they were wrong about something. That's not everyone. She's telling you she doesn't cling to old beliefs just because they're comfortable. This matters because it means she's also likely to examine relationships, decisions, and people carefully. The specific book matters less than the fact that she let something external reshape her thinking. Pay attention to what direction the change went. Did she become more skeptical, more open, more ambitious, less judgmental. That tells you what kind of shift she values.

Your reply needs to do two things. First, show you understand what the change was, not just the title of the book. Reference the specific shift she described or reasonably imply what it was. Second, ask something that lets her expand on why that shift mattered to her, not what happens in the book. Don't ask 'have you read anything else by that author.' Ask what was wrong with how she thought before, or what she does differently now. You're interviewing her reasoning, not her taste in literature.

This is a high-effort prompt answer, so she expects a thoughtful reply. Send yours the same day if you can, while she's still thinking about the book and the change it brought. If she doesn't reply within 24 hours, she's either busy or not interested. By day two of silence, move on. If she does reply, keep the focus on her thinking, not the book. The conversation should be about her, her growth, and her curiosity. A second message with a follow-up question works if she gave you something to work with. A third message asking if she's read anything else lately feels like chasing.